solo-cations + why i’m planning on making them a regular thing
hey guys! it’s been a few weeks, but glad to be back. i took some much needed time to step back [from a few areas of my life] and just try to relax… which is what i want to talk about in today’s post!
after a very, very eventful spring and summer [seriously, i don’t think i stopped going going going from the end of march until the end of august]… i was just craving an escape… alone time… away from LA. labor day was approaching, and since i didn’t have any plans and the majority of my friends were going out of town, i figured this was my opportunity to chill the f*ck out and lay low.
i’m the type of person that wants to do all of the things… and i knew that even if i told myself i was going to have a chill, relaxing, productive weekend in LA that there was just no way that would actually end up happening. the minute i get an invite to a party or anything… i have a very hard time saying no… because i legitimately want to go! i’m not a “yes” girl in the sense that i agree to do sh*t i don’t want to do… i just, ya know… get #FOMO and love my friends and being social and out and about… which is typically fine… but sometimes i do just wanna relax, too.
so, i figured a little escape from LA was my best bet… so, i went to airbnb, found a room in a cute little cottage in dana point [about 60 miles south of LA right on the beach] and booked it. done and done. on the books.
and wowowowowowowwwwwww was it exactly what i needed. first, let me just say that dana point is so effing cute. it’s such a quaint little beach town with everything you need [or everything you do not need] for a relaxing, rejuvenating weekend.
i walked around the marina each night and watched the sunset [and ate ice cream for dinner bc #vacation]… i went to the beach… i sat on the porch of my airbnb and read every morning… i went to yoga in lantern bay park… i meditated every morning… i journaled… i stumbled onto live music in a little plaza and enjoyed that for a little bit… worked on some blog stuff… it was great.
i haven’t traveled solo very much [the only other time i’ve traveled alone was during the 2nd half of my trip to australia, when i visited brisbane and sydney] and although i definitely prefer traveling with other people, there are a few benefits to what i’m now referring to as the “solo-cation”:
1) you can do whatever the f*ck you want, whenever the f*ck you want. i can’t tell you how nice it was to be able to sleep in, and then wake up with no plan. usually when you’re on vacation with other people, there’s some kind of a game plan in place… a set time to wake up and be out of the hotel… places to go… things to see… which is all great, but sometimes you just wanna do you, ya know? on a solo-cation, you can do as much or as little as you want, and you can change your plan at any time, no questions asked.
2) it gives you a chance to actually recharge. ever come back from a “vacation” saying, “wow, i need a vacation from my vacation”? usually when we’re traveling with other people, we’re very gogogogogogo… probably drinking [at all hours of the day]… staying out late… having big group dinners… talking and talking and talking… which is all great, but it’s also exhausting. when you’re traveling solo, you have time to yourself. you can listen to your body, and do what feels right for you. honestly, it was so nice to not have to talk to anyone for almost 48 hours… and i mean that in the most loving way possible!
3) being alone is actually a good thing. society has lead us to believe that being alone is a bad thing… but i absolutely disagree. think about it… if you’re not okay being alone… with yourself… what makes you think anyone else is going to want to be around you? yea, of course, going to a restaurant by yourself can seem or feel “weird”… but it really isn’t, i promise you. once you get over the idea that people are staring at you, or feeling like a loser because you’re alone… you’ll realize that it’s actually pretty great… and good for your overall mental health and well-being, too!
so, for these reasons, i’m officially making solo-cations a regular thing. i’m thinking 2 times a year… maybe fall and spring… since those seem to be the least busy times of the year for me. even if i just head somewhere close by in so-cal, taking a few days to get away from everything really had a positive impact on my mindset and feeling of overall well-being… and i can’t wait to do it again! you don’t have to go far from home to feel the benefits.
i would love to know… have you traveled solo before? if so, how did you like it? where did you go? where should i go for my next solo-cation?! tell me in the comments below… and have an amazing weekend!
an untitled note on right vs. wrong
happy friday! the weekend is finally here… sometimes i worry that i spend tooooo much time during the week looking forward to the weekend… but more on that another time.
i originally had another post planned for this week, but given the current “state of affairs” in this country, i just couldn’t bring myself to pull it together. so, bear with me.
i’ve been feeling pretty effing shitty this week. the events in charlottesville… and the lack of a real response from the “president” have had me seriously doubting pretty much everything… my faith in humanity. where the country is going. where the world is going. life in general. i just can’t seem to escape this overwhelming feeling of dread/doom/hopelessness.
now, i’d be lying if i said i hadn’t felt like this before… i spent a solid 3-4 hours sobbing uncontrollably when trump won the election… and some people told me i was “being ridiculous” and “needed to get a grip” because “everything was going to be okay”… well… things aren’t okay, they haven’t been okay, and i feel like they might never be okay ever again. [and i don’t think i’m alone here.]
but, i’m not writing this post to talk about trump. i don’t want to talk politics right now. i don’t want to discuss republican vs. democrat, right vs. left, conservative vs. liberal bullsh*t because right now, none of that f*cking matters.
what i do what to talk about is right vs. wrong. a pretty simple concept that we’re taught from… oh i don’t know… pre-school?!
we all know what is right. we all know what is wrong. this isn’t a matter of opinion. regardless of what side you stand on politically or who you voted for, you know that it’s wrong to murder someone. to intentionally run your car into a group of people protesting – something we have the right to do as american citizens.
additionally, it’s wrong to be racist. it’s wrong to hate someone because of their religion. and it’s certainly wrong to be a neo-nazi, a member of ISIS or a f*cking terrorist. there is no way around any of that, so hold your arguments because they don’t. f*cking. matter.
at this stage of the game, i’m exhausted from trying to understand how so many people can care so little for other people. can have so much hatred and violence inside of them. can be so un-american in the name of “taking back america”… excuse me… what? this country was founded [see also: taken away from the native americans] by refugees fleeing oppression and tyranny. i can’t even wrap my head around the level of hypocrisy we’re dealing with right now. it blows my mind.
so, WTF are we supposed to do? these are the cards we’ve been dealt. this is the world we’re living in. this is real life. the roller coaster over emotions i’ve been on this week has taken me from sadness to anger to fear to confusion to hatred to apathy and back again…
and i’ve realized something: that by hating the people on the other side, i’m no better than they are, even if my hatred is coming from a place of wanting a world where hate, bigotry, and violence don’t exist.
so on that note, i’m going to make an effort to remove hate of any kind from my heart. to be f*cking nice even when i don’t want to be or i don’t think someone deserves it. to live my life from a place of love. to smile when i pass a stranger on the sidewalk or at the grocery store. to let that person merge into the lane in front of me, even if they aren’t using their f*cking turn signal. why? because the world needs more love, kindness, and acceptance more than ever.
yes, i know that i’m only one person and that “being nice” isn’t going to solve the world’s problems. but what other option do i have? i obviously wish there was more i could do to make this world a better place. i really, really do. but at this point, this simple step is it.
i don’t really know where i was going with this, or what point i wanted to make… it really was just more of a therapeutic thing i wanted to do for myself that i’m sharing with the hope that maybe it will inspire someone else to be nicer… or take action in their own way. we’re all in this together.
please, please, pleeeaaasssseeeee feel free to share how you’re handling all of this in the comments below! i think we could all use some inspiration right now.
p.s. shout out to maya angelou for her wisdom. i often come back to her words in times like these. #bosslady
power up with pinole
happy friday, everyone! i don’t know about you… but this week has seriously draaaggggggedddddd. i am so ready for the weekend, and plan to sleep in, hang out with some friends, and have some fun in the sun on a booze cruise saturday afternoon!
i’m also heading to the propel co:labs fitness festival saturday and sunday, and will be pretty gogogo all weekend long, so i know i’m going to need to be fueling up the right way in the mornings. luckily, i’ve recently discovered purely pinole, which is absolutely perfect for powering up before a workout or a marathon drinking session [pick your poison, #balance ya know].
pinole is an ancient aztec recipe that’s served as a hot porridge… i like to describe it as a hybrid of grits and oatmeal… but with more health benefits! it’s full of vitamins and minerals, antioxidants, protein, and fiber… and now, native state foods has rediscovered the recipe coveted by the aztecs and made it their own! [you can read more about the health benefits and history of pinole here.]
it’s super easy to make [you can buy a large pack or smaller single serving “grab + go” cups] and by adding your own toppings or boosters, you can create something that perfectly suits your taste buds! here is how i’ve been preparing mine [and loving it!]:
- 1 serving of purely pinole original [prepared on the stovetop]
- 1/4 cup frozen blueberries, thawed
- 2 tbsp. sunburst organic maca powder [lots of added health benefits here, too, including stress reduction!]
- 1 tbsp. slivered almonds
- 1 tbsp. raw pepitas
- 1 tbsp. unsweetened coconut flakes
- optional: 1 tbsp. raw honey to taste
all you have to do is prepare the pinole according to the instructions on the package [it takes literally 5 minutes] and then add the toppings/boosters! you can obviously mix and match with whatever you like… add any fruit/nuts/seeds/powders… the combinations are endless… and enjoy!
have you tried pinole yet? what are you favorite ways to power up?! tell me in the comments below!
#needit: acupressure mat
happy thursday, and welcome to the #needit series! this isn’t really a new series… i’ve just renamed the “healthy lifestyle staples” series… #needit is just way easier to say [it flows better, no?] and feels waaayyyyyy more me [yes, i speak in hashtags sometimes… sue me].
so, let’s get down to business, shall we?
about a year ago, i was introduced to the concept of the acupressure mat by my old boss. he kept one at his desk and the first time i saw it my reaction was, “wtf is that?!” it literally looks like a little pillow with needles on it… not something you immediately would think you would want to own.
he explained to me what it was, the benefits, and how he used it, but i wasn’t really convinced… so, i just forgot about it.
flash forward to a few months ago, and an acupressure mat starts poppin’ up on one of my favorite lifestyle bloggers’ snapchat and instagram stories.. and then, she did a post all about what they are, the benefits, etc., so i figured that an acupressure mat was something i should at least give a try. but, i didn’t feel a real sense of urgency for it, and kind of put it out of my mind… again.
and then… the straw that broke the camel’s back: i was in a car accident [rear-ended on the 10, effing LA] about 2 months ago, and as a result, started having some neck and back pain. i’ve been seeing a chiropractor for treatment, but also felt like i should be doing something daily to help with the recovery and pain management… enter: the acupressure mat.
so, what is an acupressure mat, exactly? so glad you asked! an acupressure mat is pretty much how i described it before… a small mattress and neck pillow set, both of which are covered in little plastic spikes… yes, that’s right… plastic. spikes.
i know that this sounds like pretty much the worst thing ever, but the spikes have a purpose: to stimulate pressure points along the meridian line of the body, which in turn does things like:
- activates feel-good endorphins
- reduces muscle pain and tension, including headaches
- promotes blood circulation and oxygenates the body
- relieves stress and anxiety
- aids in the digestive process
- increases energy and helps with general fatigue
- improves overall sleep quality
not really much that this thing can’t do when it comes to improving your overall health and wellness… and it’s been a go-to in the alternative and eastern medicine communities for a verrrrryyyyyy long time.
so, how do you use it? you lay on it. that’s it. for about 10-20 minutes per day… on your back with your neck on the pillow, on your stomach… you can also sit or stand on the mat to help relieve pain in the lower back, legs, and feet.
over the past month and a half or so, i’ve incorporated this bad boy into my morning routine… i meditate for 15 minutes immediately after waking up each day, and then i go right to the mat for 20 minutes… 10 on my back/neck and 10 on my stomach. i’ll either read or journal while i’m laying there, which makes the time just fly by…
… and i always feel amazing after.
specifically, since i’ve started doing this, not only have i had some relief from the pain and stiffness in my neck caused by the car accident i was in, but i’ve also felt an increase in my energy levels throughout the day [not getting that 2 o’clock feeling anymore!], and have been sleeping much better than i typically do [less waking up throughout the night, it’s easier to get out of bed when my alarm goes off].
i bought this thing for one reason, but i don’t see myself discontinuing the use of it any time soon… if ever.
want to get one for yourself? they’re only $19.99 on amazon, and they’re available on prime, meaning you can start feeling allllllll of the benefits listed above in just 2 days… for less than $20! [this post isn’t sponsored… i seriously just love this thing and want everyone to have one!]
questions? ever used an acupressure mat? if so, how has it improved your life? any other must have products i should try out? i want to hear from you! you can leave a comment below or shoot me an email at email@example.com!
book club: the subtle art of not giving a f*ck
the bananas + bellinis book club… something i totally intended on doing consistently and just didn’t… add it to the freakin’ list, amiright?!
at the beginning of the year, i set a bunch of goals [NOT “resolutions”] and one of them was to read 24 books in 2017 [averaging about 2 per month]. i’m a liiiittttttllllleee bit behind [currently working my way through number 10] but i’ve read a few really, really f*cking good ones, so bringing the book club back just feels right. and remember, i’m not pushing things if i’m not feelin’ it anymore.
so, back in april, i read the subtle art of not giving a f*ck by mark manson. i was so excited to dive into this one because it was born from my favorite blog post of all time [of the same title, by the same author] which if you haven’t read it before… get to it, but the book takes the same points made in the blog post and just expands on them… in a big way. it breaks it down, and takes it to the next level.
the core of manson’s message is all about figuring out what’s most important to you… and no longer giving a f*ck about the other sh*t. and he’s really good at removing the fluff. he can seem a little harsh, but sometimes tough love is the best way to get the point across… many of us need a big, fat reality check delivered with eff bombs flying from every direction. if you don’t like the “non non-sense” approach [or profanity] this book definitely isn’t for you. if you’re okay with it [and kinda embrace it, like i do]… read on.
for me, one of the biggest takeaways was that instead of focusing on not having problems and aiming for a life of perfection [because life isn’t perfect and there’s always gonna be sh*t to deal with] manson suggests asking yourself this:
what problem do you want to have?
life is about figuring out what is worth the struggle… what’s worth the pain, the heartbreak… what you want to fail at… what you want to have to pick yourself back up from, and try again and again and again until you get it right… failure and pain are the way to happiness and success, and you can’t have one without the other.
another thing that he touches on a lot is how caring about what other people think is the downfall of so many of us. we spend so much time and energy pursuing a certain career, dressing a certain way, doing this because we think so-and-so will like us more if we do, putting ourselves in situations we have no interest in being a part of because we feel obligated for whatever reason to do it… and sh*t like this is a giant waste of f*cking time.
why is it a giant waste of f*cking time? because, believe it or not, what other people think of us does not matter. if you’re not happy, if you’re not following your truth… then life makes zero. f*cking. sense. [sorry for all the eff bombs but this book just really fires me up!] so stop giving a f*ck about what you think you should be doing, and just go out and do what you want.
finally, the last point from his book that i wanted to touch on that really struck a chord for me can be summed up in this quote:
“you will have a growing appreciation for life’s basic experiences: the pleasures of simple friendship, creating something, helping a person in need, reading a good book, laughing with someone you care about.
sounds boring doesn’t it? that’s because these things are ordinary. but maybe they’re ordinary for a reason: because they are what actually matters.”
in conclusion, we all need to stop giving a f*ck about sh*t that doesn’t matter. society wants us to believe that our careers, our possessions, our “status” and our bank accounts are the most important things in our lives, but society is f*cking wrong. once we realize this and adjust our lives accordingly, we’ll be able to enjoy and truly appreciate the little things… the little things that make up most of the time in between the big things… and stop giving a f*ck about everything else.
if any of this has resonated with you… or you feel like you just need a kick in the ass to get your sh*tget the book right now together… and get ready to get real with yourself… and everyone in your life in the process.
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