the guest house
as a yogi, i’m a huge fan of rumi, a 13th century persian poet whose work is full of wisdom that integrates very well into the practice of yoga. i always find myself being able to take away so much from his beautiful insights, and love the fact that his work is still applicable and relevant in a world that he could have never imagined in his lifetime.
recently, i discovered one of his poems, the guest house, after coldplay [we can talk more about my obsession with them later] used several lines from this piece on their new album. the words intrigued me, so i started googling them… and wasn’t surprised to discover that the message coming through my speakers was from rumi:
needless to say, i’ve become completely obsessed with this piece, and find myself sharing it with friends, and reading it multiple times a week, especially when i feel like i need to take a step back and clear my head.
what i love most is that rumi is giving us permission to feel all of the feels. so often we try to control our emotions, ignore how we’re feeling and pretend like everything is fine, but from this approach, we’re actually being told that it’s not only okay to, but that we should, do the opposite.
i also love the idea of our bodies being the guest house for the feels… “guest” being the key word here… guests of any kind aren’t permanent… and neither are our emotions or those unavoidable bad days.
every situation, every feeling has a purpose. without the bad, we wouldn’t know the good. without feeling sadness, how would we ever know what it feels like to truly be happy? …see where i’m going here?
rumi is also suggesting that each emotion has been given to us as a means of figuring out what our next move is. something doesn’t feel right? okay, great. time to take a look at where this feeling is coming from and determine what can be done to resolve it.
feelings, emotions, situations… they aren’t punishment. you aren’t suffering because the universe hates you. there’s a reason for all of this. you just have to step back, look at things from a different perspective, and find out what that reason is.
a note on california
it’s been almost 8 months since i touched down in l.a. and looking back, i cannot believe it’s been that long. talk about time flying by. it feels like just last week i hopped off the plane at l.a.x. [get it? anyone?!] with 2 suitcases, a duffel bag and a backpack, moved onto the couch of my friends’ apartment, and did what i had to do to make living in california a thing… and i am so happy that i did!
when i first started breaking the news to everyone that i was quitting my job and leaving new york for california, most were supportive, as i expected them to be, but they also had a lot of warnings for me:
“well you know it’s nothing like new york, right?” … yea, duh, that’s why i’m moving there.
“you’ll have to have a car and traffic in l.a. is a nightmare.” … that’s what i’ve heard… but have you ever been on the subway? now that’s what nightmares are made of.
“they have no seasons there. it’s literally summer all the time.” … YEP, PICKED UP ON THAT PART.
even though i was confident that making the move was a great decision, in the back of my mind i kept telling myself that if i absolutely hated it and things didn’t work out, i could move back to new york after a year.
well, i’ve been here since july 23rd, and i can say with confidence that i don’t ever plan on going back to new york. honestly, i’m a little surprised myself. i never thought i would live anywhere but new york until i came to l.a. for the first time in 2013. but now, i don’t know how i ever thought new york was where i belonged. why, you ask? a few reasons:
1. the weather. not to beat a dead horse, but seriously, why do people choose to subject themselves to subzero temperatures, snow, wind chills and winters that last for 6 months? i will never understand this.
2. the beach. [see also: the ocean, sand, palm trees, the sun, the coastal views, etc.]
3. the people. new yorkers get a bad rap, yes, but seriously, the people in l.a. are so much nicer than the people in new york. from my uber driver to the guy ringing me up at whole foods to random people at bars… everyone is friendly, everyone asks how your day is going and genuinely seems to care. even the homeless people here are nice! must be all that vitamin d.
4. driving. is the traffic bad in l.a.? yes. it’s just as bad as they say it is. but you know what’s worse than sitting in your car, ac on/windows down, listening to music or talking on the phone while you’re stuck in traffic? standing in a crowded subway car with no air conditioning in the middle of summer with a stranger’s armpit in your face for 3 hours when your commute should only take 40 minutes because of a mysterious phenomena known as “train traffic” caused by “signal problems ahead”. pick your poison, but personally, i choose the former.
5. the lifestyle. the grind in new york is real. no one ever stops. everyone is moving quickly and is always “too busy” for this and “too busy” for that. when you’re caught up in it, it just becomes normal. but out in l.a. everything is more laid back. people walk slower [working on losing my “new york walk”], showing up 30 minutes late is considered being on time [also working on not showing up everywhere 30 minutes early] and the “i’m too busy” excuse is something you almost never hear. people are generally more carefree, open and relaxed… and it’s been a nice change of pace for me.
so there you have it. i’ve officially gone from “empire state of mind” to “golden state of mind” … and yea, i’m just fine with that.
guess who’s back?
hello to all of my lovely readers! i know it’s been some time since we’ve seen each other over here, but i’m happy to say that after a 2 month hiatus, i. am. BACK!
i consciously made the choice to hold off on blogging around the new year, simply because i felt like i was being pulled in too many directions and couldn’t do this the way that i wanted to … and if i’m going to do something, i always want to make sure i’m doing it right [or at least “right” in my eyes].
so, here we are, 2 months later, and i’m craving the creative outlet … dying to get back to writing and posting consistently … starting now. a few things i want to mention:
1. new post schedule: back when i started bananas + bellinis, i was working for a company that made me miserable, and was in a role that allowed me to devote hours each day to this blog … yes, even when i was in the office. that’s no longer the case [thank god], but it does mean the monday-wednesday-friday schedule i was on before is gone. i plan on posting twice per week … what days? whenever i can get it done. so check back often!
2. thirsty thursdays: considering there is an alcoholic beverage in the name of this little blog, i figure it’s about time we start actually talking about that. two times per month, i’ll post a recipe for a cocktail of some kind … with a healthy little twist … it’s all about that balance, remember?
3. less recipes, more real talk: as much as i love cooking, baking, experimenting in the kitchen and recipe testing … it’s a lot of work, and on top of that not very cheap, to constantly be doing. i’ll still be throwing in the occassional recipe, but moving forward, this will be less of a focus for bananas + bellinis, and more lifestyle tips and anecdotes from real life experiences can be expected.
4. yoga: because yoga is such a huge part of my life [both the physical aspect and otherwise] i want to make this more of a focus here at bananas + bellinis! basically, i’ll be taking the yoga diaries to the next level.
5. restaurant reviews: if you follow me on instagram, you already know that i’m a huge foodie. i love checking out new restaurants, trying new cuisines, and enjoying a cocktail [or three] at new, fun bars. i want to make this a larger aspect of bananas + bellinis, and start full-on reviewing all of the new places i go … whether here in l.a. or while i’m traveling!
alright, that’s it for now. i’m pretty excited to take this new direction and see what happens! there’s definitely more where this came from, too … but one thing at a time. it’s all about those baby steps, after all!
see you guys on friday for my “first” new post … what’s the topic … you’ll have to wait and find out! and on that note, i’ll leave you with this:
“sometimes it ends up different … and that’s okay.” – unknown
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