motivation mondays: week 30
good morning! how was your weekend? we had gorgeous weather here in new york which [as always] elevated my mood to new levels. it’s so much easier for me to get up and out of bed on the weekends to workout, meet up with friends and just generally be productive when it’s warm and sunny. i’m really, really hoping that the winter weather is behind us and we can just look forward to only nicer and nicer weather from here on out. i hope that wherever you are, the weather is working in your favor, as well!
lately, i’ve been talking a lot about change on the blog and how sometimes you just need to know when it’s time to let go of things that aren’t working for you anymore and move on, take the leap and see what happens. and while i totally believe this to be true, i can’t help but tell myself “easier said than done”… right?
well, yes and no. of course making big decisions is hard. It’s scary. we don’t know how it’s going to end up. it could end up being the wrong decision, but it could also end up being the right decision, the best decision you have ever made. and, even if it doesn’t, this motivation mondays post is going to put it all into perspective for us:
correct me if i’m wrong, but i think this is a pretty simple concept. wouldn’t you rather know that something wasn’t the right decision than wonder what might have happened? at least failing at something means that you tried. you can’t fail if you don’t try, but i almost see not trying and never knowing as a bigger failure than trying and having something not work out. don’t you?
links to make this monday morning a little more bearable…
1) BEST NEWS IN A LONG TIME. LET’S F*CKING GO.
2) i love lena dunham for many reasons. mainly being because homegirl doesn’t give a f*ck what people think about her and isn’t afraid to be honest with the world about what she’s doing and why she’s doing it. in a society so plagued by superficial things like appearance and weight, i thought this was a great reminder of the mental benefits of exercise, which don’t often get talked about.
3) last but not least… a few weeks ago, a family friend’s dog was hit by a speeding car and required emergency surgery for broken legs and dislocated hips, among other things. she’s doing great, but their vet bills are over $15,000. a friend of theirs started a gofundme to help them offset some of the costs. if you can donate, every little bit helps.
have an amazing week everyone… what’s on the agenda?!
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5 things more important to your health than what you eat
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when it comes to our health and wellness goals [losing those last pesky 10 pounds, getting mad gains, being beach ready in time for summer, etc.] diet obviously has a huge impact on whether we reach them or not. i’ve read that the key to weight loss is 80/20… 80% what you eat and 20% how you’re working out. while i’m sure that there is some validity to this, diet and exercise are not the only things important to your overall health and wellness.
in my health coaching practice, i work with clients to find balance in all areas of their lives, simply because a person can be eating all of the “right” things, working out regularly and still not be seeing the results they are after if they are constantly stressed out or feeling drained [physically or mentally] by other things going on in their lives. when pursuing your health goals, you need to look at the overall picture and make adjustments accordingly.
here are 5 things more important to your health than what you eat:
1. where your food is coming from: while this is obviously related to diet, it’s less about what you are eating and more about where what you’re eating is coming from. food that comes in cardboard boxes that has a sh*tload of ingredients you can’t pronounce should be avoided as much as possible, along with fruits and vegetables that have been doused in pesticides, refined sugars, highly processed carbs, and meat/fish/dairy from factory farms. whole, organic, natural foods such as fruits, veggies, legumes, whole grains and meat and dairy products from grass-fed/free-range animals [if you’re into that sorta thing] should make up at least 80% of your diet. when you’re eating real foods, you don’t need to worry about counting calories and you’ll find that your weight will begin to naturally balance itself out.
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2. career: believe it or not, if you aren’t happy with your job, the chances are that you’ll be pretty unhappy overall. because we spend so much of our time at work [a lot of people go wayyyyy beyond the traditional 40-hour work week, which in my opinion, is already long enough], it has a huge impact on how we feel. work-related stress easily permeates our home and social lives and while we do our very best to keep “work” and “life” separate, that can be pretty hard to do sometimes. as you know, stress can have a major impact on your mental and physical health, including making weight loss more difficult. finding a career that you look forward to showing up for everyday is a key component to living a healthy, balanced life.
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3. relationships: much like your career, if you’re in a miserable relationship [not just romantic, but with a toxic friend or an unbearable family member], your overall health suffers. we need fulfillment from our relationships, the same way we need nutritious fulfillment, and when we’re in relationships that aren’t giving us what we need or are draining us because we give too much every thing falls apart. if you’re not happy with your girlfriend/boyfriend/husband/wife, do something about it. start communicating and voicing your feelings. see if the changes that need to be made can be made or if it’s time to move on. cut a toxic friend or family member out of your life. these things are not easy to do, but dealing with the consequences of maintaining the relationships that no longer serve you is even harder.
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4. sleep: sleep is so important to our health for many different reasons. first and foremost, we simply need to rest… duh. not getting enough sleep runs us down, leaves us feeling lethargic and impacts our performance at work and the gym/in yoga class/etc. and can make us unbearable to be around in social situations. i mean no one likes dealing with a grumpy, sleep-deprived 28 year old, amiright? second, sleep is essential for regulating hormones in our bodies, including hormones that are responsible for helping us maintain our weight. when our hormone cycles are disrupted it throws our entire body out of whack, making losing weight [and keeping it off] even more difficult than it already is for some of us. 7-8 hours of sleep a night is ideal, but you should never be getting less than 6 [although having a late night out here and there is totally fine, just not something you should be doing three times a week].
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5. your attitude: you’ve probably heard this all of your life, but it’s true. attitude. is. everything. what you think you become. if you’re always putting yourself down and telling yourself that you’re never going to reach your goals, guess what? you probably won’t. we can create our own reality through our thoughts. the power of intention is real and sometimes the difference between making it and breaking it is believing you can do it. wake up every day and make the choice to believe in yourself… to be happy… to accept yourself no matter what. instead of being your biggest critic, try being your biggest cheerleader and see what happens. if you only take one thing away from this post, let it be this:
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let’s be clear here for just a minute: i‘m not saying that you should stop worrying about what you’re eating or how often you’re working out. both of those things are still very important, but without these other things, they really don’t mean much of anything. take it one step at a time if you have to. start going to bed 10 minutes earlier than usual one week, then up it to 20 minutes the next. have a conversation with the friend who is mentally draining you tomorrow and then start figuring out your next career move. It doesn’t have to all be done at once. baby steps… remember?!
what i ate wednesday: philly edition
when i’m planning a trip, whether it’s a full-fledged vacation or weekend getaway, i would say about 75% of the things i end up putting on my to-do lists are related to food and drink. making sure to try a famous local/national dish, experiencing a popular restaurant that’s famous for x-y-z, enjoying coffee, wine or beer that is specific to the city or region i am in and of course, finding the hidden gems that are go-to spots for the locals.
i spent last weekend in philly, which you might have seen on instagram, and naturally spent a decent portion of the weekend checking out some places that came highly recommend by friends, and investigating a few spots that caught my eye on social media [one of the many ways i put instagram to use]. i did what i ate wednesday recaps for my last eurotrip and my weekend in south beach, so i figured why no continue this tradition and fill you guys in on some incredible philly eats.
dinner at cuba libre:
firtst and foremost: the cocktail list was massive and had some really unique libations [we opted for the pineapple-basil, and mint, ginger and honey caipirinhas] which is always a nice starting point. we shared the yucca fries, and spinach and manchengo buñuelos as appetizers… definitely opt for the latter here… and the vegetable paella [pictured] as our main course. i love when a vegetarian friendly paella is offered… you really don’t see this much! also, the vibe here is great. you really feel like you are sitting outside under palm trees and street lamps in havana… or at least that’s what i imagine it would be like to be sitting outside under palm trees and street lamps in havana!
ice cream at franklin fountain:
the moment you set foot in this ice cream shop you feel like you’ve taken a step back in time. the décor is all vintage, the employees dress the part and the ice cream is unbelievable. they have an extensive menu of sundaes, milkshakes, and floats, but since i didn’t really feel like going into a food coma at 2pm on a saturday afternoon, i opted for a good old-fashioned two-scooper in a cup: one scoop chocolate and one scoop whirly berly [chocolate with salted caramel swirls and cocoa nibs.. yea]. two scoops was probably much more than i needed but i polished that sucker off anyway. #yolo
beer flights at 2nd story brewing company:
flights… because why limit yourself to only one… or two… or three… beers? they had eight signature brews on tap, so how perfect was the option for two flights [four beers each] so we could give each one a try? they had a few different stouts and an i.p.a., but my personal favorite was the fritzie’s lager… i ordered a draft of this and in my mind i was transported right back to oktoberfest.
brunch at hawthorne’s:
what would a weekend getaway be without a brunch stop? not my kinda weekend getaway, that’s what! sunday morning we headed to hawthorne’s and expected a long wait, but were seated immediately [it probably helped that we arrived at 11am, before the brunch crowd]. they have a full, help yourself style “beer boutique” here, but i opted for mimosaw instead. they serve them “deconstructed” with your own little mini-bottle of champagne, so you know they aren’t skimping on the bubbly. the menu was amazing and making a decision was truly a challenge, but the bananas foster waffle really hit the spot. i sampled a bite of the funnel cake french toast and this would have been another great option. you really can’t go wrong here.
i don’t have pictures from a few of the other places we stopped, but reading terminal market is definitely worth checking out. there are basically 1,000 options here and it’s mostly grab-and-go/bakery/deli style places, so it’s a good place for a casual and inexpensive lunch. we had dinner at continental mid-town on saturday night and while i was super confused by the menu when i first glanced at it, i wasn’t disappointed at all. it’s all tapas/shared style dishes and the eclectic variety of cuisines is almost as awesome as the ambience and décor.
so, to sum it all up, when it comes to philly [based on this trip]:
must eat: hawthorne’s
must drink: cuba libre
honorable mention: franklin fountain
motivation mondays: week 29
so… mondays are definitely a little easier when the weather is seasonally appropriate… amiright?! loving that this morning I was able to leave my apartment in a spring jacket and scarf… i think the parka and winter clothes are ready to be retired. i know i’m ready for sandals, dresses, shorts and t-shirts… which might all still be a little ways off in the distance, but at least i feel like we’re getting closer!
a friend of mine sent me this quote last week and it was just too perfect. i knew immediately that i was going to use it for this week’s motivation mondays post… leave it to louise hay to drop some serious truthbombs.
this one really resonated with me and it’s so simple and so obvious that i can’t believe it was the first time i had ever heard it. or maybe i had heard it before, but wasn’t in a place where i was able to accept it and make it a part of my mentality.
i’ve spent years and years being hard on myself, scrutinizing myself in ways that i would never, in a million years, scrutinize my family or friends… or anyone for that matter really. i think we all do it, at least from time to time. and why? what’s the purpose of it? it’s not helpful, it makes you feel like sh*t and most likely is only digging you further into the hole you’re looking to get out of. not only that, but talking sh*t about yourself around other people gives them permission to talk sh*t about themselves. so often i find myself in the middle of conversations where everyone is just bashing themselves and it’s terrible. it just allows the vicious cycle to continue.
i saw this video made by dove a couple of weeks ago, and this little “experiment” was an eye opener for me. take a look:
i mean… it brings up an interesting question… would you ever say some of the things you say to yourself to your friends? your mom? your sister? you’re frenemies even? i don’t think so. so what makes it okay to say these things to yourself?
take some time this week to really pay attention to your thoughts and how many negative, hurtful things you say to/about yourself on a daily basis. write them down if you have to.
maybe, if we change the way we think about and talk to ourselves, the way we see ourselves will start to change and the progress we’re looking for will start to come a little bit easier. what do you have to lose? again, it’s not like criticizing yourself has gotten you anywhere anyways.
links to some good stuff for this week:
1) it might be the day after easter, but this was just too good.
2) this buzzfeed quiz kinda goes with today’s motivation mondays theme. what kind of beautiful are you?
3) last but not least, if you’re not signed up for my weekly newsletter, i would recommend changing that a$ap. i’m going to be offering something really special to all of my subscribers this week and if you want to get in on it, i would highly suggest subscribing right here!
have an amazing week… and stop being so hard on yourself! i’m going to make an effort to do it myself, so let me know what happens when you stop sh*t talking yourself… i promise it will be only good things!
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as a blogger, i definitely get a lot of inspiration from reading other blogs. i love seeing how other bloggers have designed their sites, what type of voice they use to get their message out there and what they’re doing to add animation and fun to their personal brand. my blogroll is constantly growing, but i have a handful of blogs that i read every day, without fail. these are my go-tos for everything from health and wellness to travel to fashion to cooking and baking.
health + wellness:
1) the balanced blonde: there are many reasons i love this chick’s blog, but the main reason is because i’m 100% aligned to her approach to being healthy – balance! as you know, i think there is nothing more crucial when trying to maintain a healthy lifestyle than being balanced, so her philosophy and personal experience really resonate with me. she’s all about being true to yourself, listening to your own body and taking care of it based on what is best for you. i also dig her clothing line, especially this yoga junkie tshirt, which i ordered last week!
2) the skinny confidential: lauryn is another wellness blogger who believes in taking care of yourself, but not letting being healthy consume your entire life. the skinny confidential is really more of a lifestyle brand at this point, which i hope to some day turn bananas + bellinis into. she’s written a book, has a couple of really cute puppies and her cocktail recipes are bomb… just f.y.i., you know, if you’re into that kinda thing.
3) the blonde abroad: if this girl isn’t living the dream, then i seriously don’t know who is. she goes to some of the most incredible places, takes amazing photos and conjures up some serious wanderlust in me with every single on of her posts. if i’m planning a trip, i always check to see if she has any recommendations for the place i’m headed, whether it’s for things to do, places to see or food/drinks to make sure i try… and she hasn’t let me down yet!
4) mr. + mrs. glode trot: talk about #relationshipgoals. these two professional photographers got married and quit their jobs so they could spend six months traveling around the world for their honeymoon… and then they just never really stopped. obviously, their photos are amazing and i’ve literally spent hours scrolling through their posts. their most recent trip to machu picchu is serving as inspiration for my 2016 travels!
food, cooking + baking:
5) my name is yeh: i’ll come right out and admit that i’ve never actually had a chance to try one of the recipes on molly yeh’s blog [or just haven’t dared attempt to because my creations could not possibly look as perfect as hers], but just looking at her photos seriously inspires me to get in the kitchen and start experimenting. and also to maybe take a food photography class and up my recipe game. in the meantime, i’ll be sitting over here scrolling through her posts [and drooling].
6) cassandra bodzak: i’m lucky enough to call cassandra a friend of mine, and she is everything she appears to be on her blog… super sweet, funny, and caring, which makes me love her even more. her simple, healthy, vegan recipes [especially the desserts!] are super accessible and delicious. as a mindful living coach, she also has some great tips for letting go of things that aren’t serving you and going after everything you’ve ever dreamed of.
7) morning glory blog: my dear friend ashley, who i’ve collaborated with here and here, is a boston-based fashion and music blogger, artist and photographer with so many talents. i love her edgy style and that she pulls it off on a normal working girl’s budget. she proves that you don’t need a trust fund and expensive designer clothing to look amazing.
8) gal meets glam: while julia’s style is totally out of my price range, and a little girlier than my taste, i love reading her blog for style inspiration and outfit ideas anyways. i love how put together and feminine she always looks. basically, if ashley’s style and julia’s style had a love-child, the result would be the closet of my dreams.
9) blawnde: obviously the co-founder of suja juice, annie lawless, is a mega-babe and i’ve definitely got a little bit of a girl crush on her. it’s also probably safe to say that she’s my spirit animal. she’s got a bangin’ body, gorgeous hair, killer style and just gets me. she dropped out of law school to follow her dreams and started suja from the ground up. she’s a hustler, super successful and still manages to find time to take care of herself and keep it real.
10) western wild: a more recent addition to my blogroll, kaitlynn is all about healthy recipes, a holistic lifestyle and has such fun style. her “lob” inspired me to chop my hair off a few months ago and although her blog is still pretty new, i think it’s only a matter of time before it’s going to seriously blow up. also, she has a few adorable dogs and is dating brody jenner… what more could she possible ask for?
aside from reading these blogs simply because i enjoy them, they also serve as a great reminder of why istarted bananas + bellinis. seeing other people be successful in this capacity shows me that it’s 100% possible for me to keep building this into whatever i want it to become. it might take time [lauryn of the the skinny confidential spent several years working her way to where she is today], but with passion, heart and determination, the sky’s the limit.
what are your must-read blogs?!
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